grr. argh.

"you're a feminist. deal with it." -jessica valenti.

chicklets, i am angrier than usual today.

people have just been saying pretty riddiculous things to me. people who are my friends. usually i can either overlook it. sometimes i'm even able to educate. something i'm pretty proud of was when i got a friend of mine to stop using the word "gay" as a synonym for "stupid". whenever he slips up and catches himself using it, i won't even have to correct him because he'll instantly realize, apologize, and correct himself. i think that's pretty cool. however, that is not what has been going on as of late.

here's one incident that's really been stuck in my mind. the other day, when asked if she was a feminist, a close friend of mine (who i actually assumed to be a feminist. *shrug*) snorted and said she was, and i quote, a huge anti-feminist even though she did support equality of the sexes.

what the fucking fuck?

okay, onto a more eloquent argument. let's start off with the dictionary definition of feminism, according to merriam webster
fem·i·nism
Pronunciation: \ˈfe-mə-ˌni-zəm\
Function: noun
Date: 1895
1 : the theory of the political, economic, and social equality of the sexes
2 : organized activity on behalf of women's rights and interests

so if my friend isn't a feminist, then can someone please tell me what the hell is? "i'm not a feminist, i just believe in the core feminist value". how does this make sense?
well, it does if you buy into the stereotype that feminists are ugly, uptight prudes who bitch at everyone, have no sense of humor, and never get laid. oh, and they're often man-hating lesbians.

hey, guess what? i'm a feminist, and i am funny. i am cute. and we're not talking about my personal life, but let me assure you that i have one. so i'm calling bullshit on the stereotypes.

also, let me tell you guys what an anti-feminist is. again, here's the dictionary definition: characterized by ideas or behavior reflecting a disbelief in the economic, political, and social equality of the sexes.
so if you're going to call yourself an anti-feminist, then for the love of god, please realize that you are telling people that you think men and women are not equal. you are not telling people that you like sex.

just...grrr.